Do you ever lie? Have you ever lied? Is it OK to tell just a little white lie?Really stop and think for a minute. Who has your undivided attention nearly 24/7
Give up? .....YOU...
You are the recipient of everything you say,do,believe,purpose,etc.
So just what are you hearing,doing,believing?
Even what would be considered a "nothing" statement by most of us,ultimately will worm
itself down into our inner belief system..
I truly believe in the 10 commandments, I would choose to believe their value for society
even if I chose not to believe in the author.
To me they make good common sense with the best possible outcome
for the good of all.
That said,what about digesting them?
Over at my farmfunnies blog I like to say how I ruminate on ideas and concepts,
for those of you not living around animals or associated with the way they live. ruminating is only done by those animals which chew a cud. More specifically it only take place when the animal is content,at peace,resting.
Now then take a few moments, think about the commandment concerning telling the truth.
Is it ever ok to lie? Not if you really believe the author of that statement...never,never, never.
What if it is to save someones life,or "helps" alleviate ,or,or, or...Bottom line,I believe NEVER.
OK ...am I saying I have never lied or never will again, especially if put to a 'test'? Of course not.
After all, I am only human..I have no idea how I would react if someone endangered the life of
one of my kids, and a lie seemed like the only way to save them, I was asked this question in front of a group ,and the majority of the group disagreed with my answer.
From my perspective it would still be wrong.
EVEN... if the outcome was good.
I truly believe that there would be a better way. Corrie Ten Boom expressed the wondrous outcome of her sisters always truthful answers. Could I 100% always be truthful? I wish I could say emphatically yes, I already know without the help of God, I could not.
I know I could not because...I just realized I do lie...to myself..and what is even worse...I am gullible enough to believe the little white lies...
Here is a merryheart confession example...
I have my own homebusiness.. I have struggled with a number of items as my business has grown. One of my upline (business mentor/coach/support) not long ago asked how I was doing..
I said I'm doing great...in many areas I really was... but I wasn't being totally honest..
I wasn't "getting' some things, I was discouraged,and I needed help.
Why did I say "great?"
For starters I had earlier been told when I was present at one of the trainings , I wasn't upbeat enough. This is one place I had thought would be a safe place to ask questions, to try and find solutions to difficulties encountered, to be oneself. Others also growing, stretching , learning were asking, some even complaining. were applauded, for their questions and "realness". not so for me. In my mind there was an inconsistency and unfairness.
So the next time asked how was I . Trying to practice the general consenses of ..fake it till you make it "motto"
Oh ,I'm doing fine. Also I didn't want another platitude,
nor did I want further perceiving as the doom and gloom gal.
I had concluded I would have to learn things on my own, thus why even bother to burden this person with my struggles.
My response , seems innocent enough doesn't it ..seems to actually been a "nice" thing in someways..STOP... it was really a bad thing.
My integrity was broached..to myself..
I still haven't figured out an answer for similar questions ,unless ...
ummm do you really want to know and really be a help or is this just small talk ?
That would seem blunt.
I do know I need to start seeing I damage myself with even simple "social" grace white lie responses..
what happens is I ultimately cannot trust myself..who wants to believe a liar?
Where are you in this equation?
Have you told little social grace white lies?
How is this possibly effecting you,your friends,family,your business..ultimately YOU ?
Today why not take advice from Shakespeare and purpose ...to thine own self be true ,
When you are true to yourself, believing, living, saying, doing , being truth:
then your heart can truly be a merry one..
Perhaps my Fern and snow photo can remind you...
Even when life has you covered in a blanket of snow,
you can illuminate the landscape of your life with your rich ,truthful brilliance
Let your light of truth shine to those around you
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